(January 3rd, 1992 till January 18th, 2013)
It took me so much time and the help of Evangeline to finally write this because just like so many other little things that reminded me of you, writing your tribute seemed like finality to your death. I still remember the day you passed on and I kept thinking that maybe if i had stayed awake a little bit more, prayed a little bit more, called you a little bit more often, just maybe you would have stayed a little while longer. We always joked about it but losing you in the prime of your life without any warning, any explanation, was something we never thought would happen. I recall us making plans of staying together for our Masters, starting up our joint business, your plans of going to culinary school, falling in love, getting married… and with you gone, it is hard to think of these things alone.
As we became so close, to me you have always being the weird, funny girl who always wore her favourite headphones with your infectious love for soccer, good food and funny videos. I watched your relationship, which later turned into a sisterhood with Evangeline, Olamide and Ify and how you loved them unfailingly. Then as time went on, how Ehi, Tolu, Farida, You and I bonded in such a way I never thought was possible and giving us the best time of our lives both individually and while together. You always made everyone around you feel special irrespective of whom the person was and the atmosphere always lightened up when you were in a place, no matter how bad the situation.
It wasn’t just your connection with your friends but also with your family and the love and admiration that radiated forth when you would talk about Ane being funny; Cheyi being weird; your Mum being your best friend and giving you unexpected little gifts; your Dad’s conversations with you and Chelsea doing the silliest things. It made me giddy with joy knowing that I knew someone so remarkable and genuine. You breezed through life stress-less, not because your life wasn’t stressful but because you had the patience, courage, joy unlike any other human I know.
Now we can smile a little more knowing that you have found your way back to your Father, yet we selfishly wish you were still here with us. We miss your smile, your funny walk and infectious laugh. I miss watching funny videos with you, our late nights and indomie binges, weird way of greeting each day, our silly fights and deep conversations. Our friendship always boggled my mind, but it taught me more than I could have seen from where I was standing. You reminded me to smile and be thankful, to appreciate my life and not take things too seriously. It keeps on playing over and over in my head when Olamide told me you threw up your fist in the air shouting YES!, in jubilation right after watching the match where Manchester United won and the scenario, moments before you passed away, where you still comforted Ane saying, “I will be fine”.
Even though life will never be the same without you being here physically, your memories, footprints and spirit will always be with us. You are our “Ripple Effect” as you have taught us to love without judging and to always be strong as life isn’t for the faint of heart. You taught us to never play the victim, to always smile and find joy in the little things, to always appreciate everything and to be different in a good way. You were beautiful both on the outside and on the inside, always brave, caring, forgiving, a great listener and in all you were Awesome. I LOVE YOU Eyimife. WE LOVE YOU Eyimife.
We just lost to Heaven a pure soul, but I thank God for your awesome life which was fully well spent. You will forever live in our hearts for “To live in hearts of those you love is not to die”. You defeated death by living on baby. May Angels lead you in and I know we will all meet again, never to part. Rest easy, our new angel with Silver wings.
Forever in our hearts.
We Love You.
Eyimife Gbemisola Okoaye (E.G.O.)
This was penned by Cynthia, Mife’s best friend…heartbreaking really…but as Ibk said “Heaven couldn’t wait for you”.
Sleep well, Eyimife.